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Mar 31, 2020
Brenda R. Smyth, Supervisor of Content Creation
So, here we are … packed into our apartments, our condos, our spare rooms, our basements … along with our roommates, kids, spouses, parents, significant others, dogs, cats … and it’s getting crazy. We’re stressed.
And unfortunately, time and again, studies show that while stress isn’t all bad, it is contagious (and a vaccine will never be available). Scientists assure us that humans’ inclinations to get swept up in each other’s moods and stressors is hardwired inside brain cells called mirror neurons — giving us the desirable qualities of empathy and the ability to understand each other on an emotional level.
But we each have our own stress. (We don’t need emotional contagion.) So, how can we keep the stress of colleagues, family members, patients or customers from triggering our own stress reactions? How can we be supportive, but somehow insulate ourselves from a spouse who’s worried about losing her job? Or from a close co-worker who’s hit a rough patch and spends an inordinate amount of time venting to us each morning.
We’re all out of our elements right about now … and stress levels might be steadily rising where you are.
Try not to blame those around you. The stressed out individuals probably can’t help themselves. And even if you’re fortunate, and your anxious co-worker or family member is suffering quietly — trying to keep most of her concerns to herself — you are not immune. Psychologists assure us that we are just as inclined to pick up on unintentional, nonverbal signals.
So how do we deal with secondhand stress? Experts tell us it’s a lot like dealing with any stress.
Finding ways to regain some level of control helps us cope and makes us less susceptible to its effects.
Are you struggling with more stress than you can handle? Learn more at Handling Personality Clashes in the Workplace or How to Handle Emotions Under Pressure, two one-hour premium webcasts. Or check out one of our live, virtual events: The Conference for Women or Developing Your Emotional Intelligence.
Our first natural inclination when we encounter a stressed-out individual is to put some distance between ourselves, suggests huffpost. But if that individual happens to be your boss, your spouse or a co-worker with whom you deal extensively, avoidance isn’t necessarily an option. So try these things instead:
It’s not necessary to eliminate all stress from our lives. Stress can energize us to action. But if you’re dealing with more secondhand stress than you’d like, deal with it like any stress. Find ways to regain control of the situation — whether that’s occasionally helping out an overwhelmed colleague, learning to set better limits or forging ahead by simply maintaining your own sunny disposition.
Brenda R. Smyth
Supervisor of Content Creation
Brenda Smyth is supervisor of content creation at SkillPath. Drawing from 20-plus years of business and management experience, her writings have appeared on Forbes.com, Entrepreneur.com and Training Industry Magazine.
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